Who is One Happy Widow Meant to Help?
When I became a widow, I started joining several Facebook groups for widowed people, in hopes that I could find some support. Some groups were a little too dark/inappropriate for my taste, others seemed to be in a constant competition about whose tragedy was the worst. Many of the members would post about refusing to accept that they were no longer married, and angrily state their still-married status like a badge of honor. I have the most sympathy for people in that state, because I feel like they might be stuck in one of the stages of grief, and refusing to accept that their spouse is truly gone for good. I cannot imagine having those painful, sad feelings eating at me every day for the rest of my life.
I decided to try to get myself out of my own grieving rut, and make a life for myself. It might not have bee the one I had planned, but it is the life I have now, so I might as well make the best of it. I was widowed at 43, and didn’t want to spend the next 20-40 years being miserable and sad every day. I decided to give myself permission to be happy. It’s a constant work in progress, but I can say that I am on that path, and working to find joy in my life every day. I’d like to help others do the same! One day at a time.
If you are stuck in the grief cycle, I encourage you to think about trying to picture yourself happy again. It might seem far off, but it is possible for everyone! If you want to be happy, but aren’t sure how to do it or where to start, then this blog might help you with setting some goals for yourself and working towards them I am not a doctor or therapist- I’m a woman, a mom, a teacher, a wife, and a friend. And I happen to be One Happy Widow!